And who knows but that
You have been created
For such a time as this.
We read so many beautiful stories in the scriptures, especially regarding women. One such story is of Tabitha, a woman with perfect passion. She did not fear her destiny, nor did she question if she was even good enough, but she lived a life of service, never concerned if she was capable or lacking in any way. She just served.
Tabitha or Dorcas seems to have been a well-off widow living in Joppa. The Greeks referred to her as “mathetria,” meaning female disciple. This word was not used lightly in the New Testament. She was known as a Holy Women of good repute and spent her time doing good works and “acts of charity.” She was so loved and essential to helping her community, even her name indicates a woman of grace, beauty and energy. No fear just service. She herself was without a husband yet she looked after the marginalized. She made clothing for those without, she watched over the fatherless and widows. In fact, her type of service was needed so desperately that Peter raised her from the dead.
How does this relate to you? What were women expect to do at her time? How did she do her job and still take care of her family? Was she criticized for doing or being something others believed was not justified to do because she was a women?
It may not be our calling in life to do such a thing as Tabitha, yet we do have a purpose in life that is much greater than ourselves. We can follow that purpose and live it with passion.
So how do we do that? How can we be like Tabitha? Let’s start with our feelings of not being good enough. That by itself can give us doubt about our ability’s to fulfill our callings in life. That alone can prevent us from having passion to reach and fulfill our destiny.
We live in a world where we feel pressure to always be the best at everything. The best wife, friend, role model, mommy, neighbor- you name it, we should be the best at it, right? NO! That isn’t even humanly possible. Let that idea go.
A lot of studies confirm that this idea or desire to be everything to everyone and the fear of not being ‘good enough’ is pervasive especially among women. This idea can permeate in every area of our lives: in our personal life, in our professional life, or even in our voluntary service. This idea is detrimental to our progress, our love of life and our passion. But there is hope. The following are some important keys to help us become greater and do it with passion:
1- Recognize where this thought is coming from. Is this coming from our true self or the outside world? Just noticing will make us more self-aware of what we need to change. Self-reflection of us, not social media, or magazines or Hollywood. We need to focus on what is inside of us, not on our appearance, or our property, or what we don’t have.
2- Pressure from our selves. What we think determines how we feel and how we act. Does that sound too simple? Change one negative thought at a time.
3- Comparison is our greatest enemy. We live in a society with invisible markers that tell us what we should do or become. When we compare ourselves to others, it is from our worst struggle to their best show. We feel we should be already perfect or already have reached our potential. Do not compare yourself.
4- Be true to yourself. Be honest. Take the time to know what you really want to do and who you really are. Sometimes we have to dig deep. The outside influences in life are just fluff after you know who you are.
5- Realize that all people struggle with something. We just can’t see it. We need to take the time to see others as who they really are. It is easier to just love them for the truth, not what they appear to be to us. We are all of great value.
6- Focus on what you have to offer. This is the biggest of all the keys. Where you place your focus is where you find your passion.
Tabitha did what she could with what she had and what she was doing. She magnified her calling, but did not follow a path that was expected of women at the time. Tabitha just followed her destiny. She cared about her people and about her God. She showed her love by giving her time and labor.
She is the kind of a person that is needed in our world today. We need more people who are passionate about what they do. We need people that just care and do it with passion. You are good enough.
Our passion may not even be noticed or accepted by those whom we help. They may turn us away in-spite of our efforts. Whatever we do to reach out may be shunned or unappreciated. We need to keep the passion alive anyway. We can return good for evil.
Be passionate as Mother Teresa wrote: “Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough. Give the best you’ve got anyway. You see, in the final analysis it is between you and God, it was never between you and them anyway. The good you do today, people will forget tomorrow, do good anyway. And might I add, do it with passion, you do have what is needed and you are good enough. You are needed for who you are and for where you are.
Kristena Eden http://kristenasfineart.com
I often look at the wondrous natural phenomena in the world around us and wish that I could capture and keep them forever; so my attempt to do so is revealed in my painting of Monument Valley.
Monument Valley is a breath-taking masterpiece, a place of wonder, a place of beauty and of peace that is similar to being bathed in warmth on a very cold day, or like a cool breeze in the blast of the sun’s rays. According to the Navajo legends, the giant mitten-shaped buttes fit the hands of the gods. Have you ever visited a place that seemed like God’s playground? When you are there it is like playing in the playground of the gods with a deep conviction that you are safe with sentinels at the gate to protect and to teach. Monument Valley is so immense and intricate; a “Master Artist” must have built it.
Would it not be nice to take that peace and ambiance with us daily? How do we accomplish that? I have learned that peace really does not come from outside of us, but from within. Those moments when we feel the peace, is when our heart is open to receive new life and hope.
The following principles have deepened my understanding of how to maintain that peace:
1- Interpretation- this may seem a bit strange. How does interpretation bring peace? Early explorers of Monument Valley felt the rocks seemed to be on fire smothering every living thing. Today, it is considered one of the wonders of the world. This same scenario applies in our lives daily. For example, when family members say something rude, we feel bad, but are they trying to be mean? What is our interpretation? We could be angry and lose our peace or we could choose to see their perspective. Were they having a bad day or do they lack the skill to communicate? We cannot know all that is going on in their heads or hearts. We do have the choice of finding peace by looking for understanding instead of taking offense.
2- Perfection – When I become a perfect artist or when I become a perfect mother, then I will find peace. Does that sound familiar? In reality we are here on this world to learn. Are we born being a perfect artist? No!!! We learn to paint one step at a time, one principle at a time. We learn to see what is in the world one day at a time. It is the same with whatever role we play in life. We learn how to reach our potential one day and one step at a time. Do we ever obtain perfection? Maybe not. Yet if we look back, we see our own great accomplishments. Learn to feel peace in the progress.
Our lives are not easy. Life is not meant to be easy. Some of us have been given struggles that appear insurmountable; and some of us have more struggles than others; yet we build with what we have. And we do so one step at a time, one day at a time. Look for the peace in our struggles, and then be open.
Line upon line, one-step at a time become the Master Artist of your life.
At times I feel a little lost in reaching my personal dreams. Even on good days when I work, I love; I move forward in the right direction, and I still wonder if I have accomplished what I need to do. My dreams at times feel miles away even after evaluating, redirecting and continually working toward them. In making this Raku jar I visualize capturing those hopes, goals, and dreams and have them stored by my bed ready to emerge when I awake. Is your jar filled with dreams waiting for you?
I read a humorous story by Steven Pressfield and a muse. The principle taught was very strong and applicable.
Steven Pressfield wrote a blog called: You, as the Muse Sees You. He shares his vision of how creativity and inspiration work: his Muse flies over the world daily with a jar of fabulous ideas, looking for people who have shown up. He is looking for people who are ready to work. If you are sitting at your desk ready to work or warming up ready to run, the Muse will see you from up high reach in her jar and toss down an idea to you. If the Muse flies over your house day after day and each time you are procrastinating or avoiding what you are meant to do, eventually she gives up and doesn’t stop by anymore.
I do believe this principle to be true. It would be nice if a muse really delivered it, but I look at this as inspiration coming from our higher source.
Wouldn’t you like it if your accomplished dreams were just handed to you in a jar? What would it be like to be able to achieve your greatest goals when all you had to do was get out your piece of paper and write them down, in detail? How do we make that happen? That is an overpowering question.
Our motivation is connected to our feelings and our inspiration is connected to our motivation. This sounds like a vicious circle. This is most likely the reason our dreams and goals seem so far in the future. In order to achieve our dreams, we need to be inspired. In order for us to be inspired, we need to understand our feelings. When we understand what and why we are feeling, we can then be motivated. Sounds easy? This is how:
- Make a dream list: We have all heard this one before. When the dream is written down it is more likely to be achieved. Write the dream in detail.
- Believe in self, ignoring deterring opinions: This area can be hard; life can pull us in so many different directions. It is important that we know who we are and what our purpose is. We may not know exactly how it will all play out. We do need to understand ourselves enough to take the first step. Our life goals are not to live other people’s dreams; we are aspiring to our own dreams. It is good to help others achieve also and they may be headed in the same direction as we are. Yes, I have friends who walk the same paths with me; which makes our dreams worth living. Yet it is important to realize the great things that we alone are here to achieve.
- Acknowledge barriers: This one can take a lifetime of learning. To be the best we can be at what we are meant to be, we need to continually learn and continually share what we have learned.
- Start working and keep starting until you accomplish: Have you heard of the 20-Mile March? A key concept of Jim Collins’ 2011 book Great By Choice is the “20-Mile March.”
Explained simply, the 20 Mile March cites the example of the divergence in strategy between the explorers Roald Amundsen and Robert Falcon Scott, in their efforts to lead their teams to be the first to the South Pole in October 1911.
These two teams took different approaches to achieve their goals. One chose to march 20 miles everyday no matter what the conditions. On good days they marched only 20 miles. In bad conditions they still marched 20 miles. Day after day they kept the pace. Because of this strategy they made their goals where as the other team perished in the wilderness.
If we are taking the next step, we will be assisted. If we are procrastinating, our assistance will also be procrastinated. Take the first step and take the next step. Don’t wait for that inspiration, it will come. Each day, be consistent. Start again and again; take one step, then the next.
I made this Raku jar to represent all of our dreams being caught and stored ready for us to use. The driftwood on the top is a signal that we are moving step by step onward and upward. The heart of our dreams and our ability to achieve them are a beautiful thing. Our dreams are there for us. They are waiting for just us. Take these dreams and embrace them; carry them with you in all your daily living. Carry them with you in all the steps required to move them forward. It will start to feel as if your dreams are being tossed down to you.
Are you just a woman, or just a mom, or just a messenger? That idea or feeling of insignificance just suffocates us, making us grasp for air, for light, for life. Are we not enough or is that a bold lie?
In moments like these I think of the story of the leaky bucket as it helps to give insight into our value.
THE LEAKY BUCKET
“In the very olden times, there was once a great queen. This queen had many, many servants to take care of every task. One particular servant was responsible for bringing water from the well to the queen’s table. However, it was a long journey from the castle to the well from which fresh, clean and pure water could be obtained. As this was the time before cars and other convenient machines, the servant carried two buckets – one attached to each end of a long stick – to transport water back to the castle. One of the buckets was new – it shone in the sunlight and it was perfect in every way. The other bucket was older and it had a small hole on one side, which caused water to leak from it onto the ground, along the road back to the castle.
Thus, whenever, the servant arrived back to the castle, although he had filled two buckets of water, he had only one and a half to present to the queen. This caused the leaky bucket great distress. Twice a day when the servant picked up the buckets to go to the well, the older one would look longingly at the new one, “Oh, why can’t I be as shiny and flawless as the other?” the bucket would bemoan. The leaky bucket would cast envious looks at the new bucket since not a single drop fell from its new, glistening metal. It tried every possible way of shifting its weight, of rotating its sides to minimize the leakage, but all to no avail. It could retain no more than half of bucket through the long walk back to the castle.
One day, the leaking bucket was distraught and cried out to the servant, “why don’t you just throw me away? I’m of no use to you. I can do barely half the work of your new bucket. You have to walk such a long way back and forth to the well and I leak out half of the water you fill me with. The queen is such a good, noble, divine queen. I want to serve her as well as you. But I can’t. I can’t even give her a full bucket of water.”
The servant was very wise (sometimes wisdom lies hidden in places where we don’t expect it). He said to the bucket, “Look down. Look below you on the path to the castle, the path upon which you leak your water.” The bucket at first was too ashamed to look and see drops of precious water scattered on the ground. When it finally looked, however, it noticed a thick row of beautiful flowers – so many lush, blossoming varieties – lining the path with vibrancy and beauty.
‘Every day I pick these flowers to decorate the queen’s table and her room,’ the servant said. ‘When I noticed that you were leaking, I planted seeds all along the path on your side of the road. Then, twice a day you come and water them. Now, they have grown and blossomed into the queen’s favorite centerpiece. She says their fragrance calms her mind and brings peace to her heart. So, you see, you are not useless at all. Rather, you are serving two purposes – both to bring water (albeit half a bucket) and to bring beautiful flowers to the queen’s castle.’”
In this painting Phebe was a messenger for Paul. Even though Paul never personally ministered to the saints in Rome, he sent the saints’ instruction and encouragement in the form of letters via Phebe, a great woman of faith. Phebe is looking over her shoulder in fear of being discovered and losing the letter and her life. She chose to do what she needed to do in spite of her fear or stumbling blocks. Through her efforts the saints received instruction and this also gave us the book of Romans.
So how important is just a messenger? The small pieces of paper that she delivered changed the world. It brought peace to those who needed it. Her contribution is still bringing light and life to our world today. So was she just a messenger?
Every one of us has a contribution to give. What may seem small may actually have great impact. And what may slow us down can be overcome. Nobly carry your life giving water to where ever it is needed, even if you just drip it along your daily path.
Painting Kristena Eden
Music and art are less vulnerable to cognitive decline, Canadian neurologists say
Posted: Aug 22, 2013 5:03 PM ET
Art and music are less vulnerable to cognitive decline, a new Canadian study suggests.
Neurologists at St. Michael’s Hospital in Toronto found that artists suffering from vascular dementia may still be able to draw spontaneously and from memory, despite being unable to complete simple, everyday tasks.
“We discovered that there is a disproportion between the degree that artists lose some of their memory function, their orientation and other day-to-day cognitive functions. But at the same time, some of their art form is preserved,” Dr. Luis Fornazzari, a neurological consultant at St. Michael’s Hospital memory clinic and lead author of the paper, told CBC News.
Artists compared with non-artists are better protected, he added. “Due to their art, the brain is better protected [against] diseases like Alzheimer’s, vascular dementia, and even strokes. They have more reserve in their brain in order to give functions.
“So [we know], based on other neuroscience studies, that art in any of its forms uses different neuronal avenues inside the brain to do their work. And the activity, the talent and the art per se gives reserve when the brain requires that reserve.”
‘Exceptional’ artistic skills
The study, released Thursday in the Canadian Journal of Neurological Sciences, looks at the last few years of the late Mary Hecht, an internationally renowned sculptor, who was able to draw spontaneously as well as complete detailed sketches of faces and figures, from memory, despite suffering from severe vascular dementia.
‘Art should be taught to everyone. It’s better than many medications and is as important as mathematics or history.’—Dr. Luis Fornazzari, St. Michael’s Hospital memory clinic
“Mary Hecht was a remarkable example of how artistic abilities are preserved in spite of the degeneration of the brain and a loss in the more mundane, day-to-day memory functions,” Fornazzari said.
Hecht, who died in April 2013 at the age of 81, was wheelchair-bound due to previous strokes. She was unable to tell time, name certain animals or remember any words she was asked to recall.
But she could quickly sketch an accurate portrait of a research student from the hospital’s memory clinic. She could also draw a free-hand sketch of a lying Buddha figurine and reproduce it from memory a few minutes later — as well as an accurate sketch of famed cellist Mstislav Rostropovich after learning of his death earlier on the radio.
While she was drawing and showing medical staff her drawings, Hecht spoke articulately without hesitation about art, the researchers found.
“This is the most exceptional example of the degree of preservation of artistic skills we’ve seen in our clinic,” said Dr. Corinne Fischer, director at the St. Michael’s Hospital memory clinic.
“Most of the other studies that have been done in this area looked at other kinds of dementia such as Alzheimer’s disease or frontal temporal dementia, while this is a case of cognitive reserve in a patient with fairly advanced vascular dementia,” she added.
Alzheimer’s patients also studied
Fornazzari told CBC that details from previous cases of patients suffering from Alzheimer’s disease, including one musician who could still play the piano and learn new music, were also included in the study.
One of Mary Hecht’s drawings after the sculptor was diagnosed with advanced vascular dementia before her death.(St. Michael’s Hospital)“We noticed for instance that some of the artists lost their speech. They couldn’t talk,” he said. “But at the same time, the art was totally preserved. The same [results occurred] not only with painters but with musicians.”
In a separate study in 2011, Fischer also looked at bilingual patients with Alzheimer’s and discovered they had twice as much cognitive reserve as their counterparts who only spoke one language.
Fornazzari said he believes educators should take the findings seriously and encourage schools to teach the arts – whether sculpture, painting or music – rather than cutting back on them.
“Art opens the mind,” he said. “It should be taught to everyone. It’s better than many medications and is as important as mathematics or history.”
Does that even sound like a possibility? To this day I cannot remember what she had gotten into but I do remember those huge sparkly eyes so full of life and mischief. How can you not just love her?
Disciplining children can be a two way street:
1. One street you want to block is to make sure that children do not feel entitled. Have you been around people who feel they can do what ever they want to people or things with no regard for other’s feelings- an actual belief that the universe turns around them? Not pleasant nor reality.
2. Another street to be aware of in disciplining is to not crush the beautiful sprit inside.
So how do you teach a child to be respectful and still maintain that spark? Disciplining with love! That isn’t even an oxymoron.
Shopping day with a child can be a nightmare. I had taken three of my children shopping. It was one of those days when you are out of everything and either go to the store or starve. The kids for sure didn’t like that later suggestion. When we got there my kids must have thought I said ok every one this is a free for all. Just run in every direction. So that is what they did. They were hiding in the book isle and reading all the books or at least pretended to. They kept putting chips, candy and pop in the cart. I am sure it took three times longer to go shopping because I had to continually put things back and tell the kids, “No not now please.”
All of the sudden I had notice that one of my kids was missing; the quiet one of course. I hurried up and down the isles. I checked the candy lane and the toy lane. I’d even check the bathrooms even though I knew she wouldn’t go on her own. I started noticing the people around me wondering if they would have possibly taken my little child. Have you ever been to that point where sheer exhaustion and pure panic set in? I wanted to start screaming. Where are you? I asked the clerks and the store managers and everyone was watching for my little girl. About a half hour had passed and the manager decided to call the police because in the news there had been the devastating story’s of young children being taken.
What is the first thought that comes to your mind? Do you forget that just a moment ago you were so frustrated because of the commotion the kids were causing? Do you feel remorse for not watching them so close. More than likely you are just too concerned for the safety of your child that all thought of yourself is gone.
After the frantic search and the tears we finally found the sleeping child. In the end she had just crawled under the rack of children’s cloths and gone to sleep. Yet at that moment before you were completely out of yourself and just loving that child.
Then there were the hugs and tears and paying for the food, which I am sure I had no idea, even what was in the basket. On the ride home I told the kids that we needed to come up with a better way to go shopping. So together we made up our list of rules for shopping day. I wanted them to be invested in this with me so that we would not repeat what we had just done. So together we made our new rules.
1- No running from mom.
2- Pay attention to the people around you.
3- Write a grocery list together before we go.
4- Tell mommy when I’m tired. (From my 2 year old)
5- Watch out for each other.
6- Only pick one thing to put in the cart.
Now those may sound like little trivial things yet when you look at the bigger picture these teach empathy, awareness, money management, consideration, and safety. What a simple idea and yet still so profound. Because the kids helped come up with the ideas, they were more willing to follow through.
I love my child
I also love my grandchildren. The following is a painting I did of Reese my granddaughter. I caught her getting into something, which I can’t even remember what that was, but her expression was so captivating. In the painting she was just 2 years old. Now she has grown into such a beautiful 6 year old with that same spark in her eye. I really can’t take the credit for her becoming such an amazing person, because she is so like her mother- empathetic, considerate, loving and so talented.
Coming out soon, I have a read aloud children’s book that helps parents and children through daily living to believe in them selves. “Do you believe in me?” Watch for it.
When life gets hard, it seems that it’s the arts that are the first to be put on the back burner. We have a tendency to think that they are a luxury that we can’t afford. In my own life, I have seen peace and meaning being manifest in me, in my work, in my children, and in their work from their exposure to the arts. Even though they have not chosen to be artists, per se, I see what the influence itself has given them.
An article by Dee Dickenson really hit home for me. It mentions some real reasons we so desperately need the arts in our lives.
• They are languages that all people speak that cut across racial, cultural, social, educational, and economic barriers and enhance cultural appreciation and awareness.
• They provide opportunities for self-expression, bringing the inner world into the outer world of concrete reality.
• They develop both independence and collaboration.
• They make it possible to use personal strengths in meaningful ways and to bridge into understanding sometimes difficult abstractions through these strengths.
• They improve academic achievement — enhancing test scores, attitudes, social skills, critical and creative thinking.
• They exercise and develop higher order thinking skills including analysis, synthesis, evaluation, and “problem-finding.”
• They provide the means for every student to learn.
Adapted from “Why the arts are important?” by Dee Dickenson
How could we pass up an opportunity to give the world so much? I challenge you to use the arts of any kind to enhance your world. Encourage it in others, enjoy it for yourself, and help find a way to provide for it in schools, society, and homes.